15-year-old boy dropped out of school nagging dissatisfaction with working mothers
boy playing mother, in fact, have a first-class hair stylist's dream. And threatened to take the father sent his son to the detention center, also began to reflect on their teaching methods (newspaper reported yesterday). After the opening of communication between parents and hotline newspaper, yesterday morning, Kwong Wan Fang reached the newspaper public hotline, she said, 15-year-old son, Jimmy Wang Yu and his family are also due to lack of communication, running away from home more than one month, and "I've heard is Wenzhou, a shoe factory workers, but never in touch with me. "
mother talk to a cell phone ruined son
eyes in the Wan Fang, the son was a cell phone destroyed the. Since 8 years ago after she and her husband separated, by doing housekeeping monthly wage of 800 yuan living, but also to feed a pair of school children.
She said her son just junior high, a good student, each monthly exam is 700 extra points "to expect he admitted to the university, I can easily point." But I never thought, ever since her husband son bought a second hand mobile phone, the son of the rapid decline in performance, "he won the phone every day to play, the examination was only 500 multisection." To play phone, her son also took the initiative to apply for adjustment of position of the teacher, from the third row sat the last row.
"said the old Jimmy Wang Yu 50 pocket money per month is not enough, also Santianliangtou money to see the doctor, not a headache is not feeling well." Wanfang later learned from the class teacher, the son of the money all Naqu full Huafei online.
"right to stay away, I do not want him." Said a month no son, Wan Fang some choking.
son respond to his mother not even know me
yesterday, the reporter contacted the 15-year-old Jimmy Wang Yu, he described the circumstances surrounding the matter.
6 28, the the next higher of Jimmy Wang Yu, the Chengdu Railway Station get on a train bound for Wenzhou. Now, he odd-job workers in a shoe factory, working 12 hours a day, a monthly salary of 1,500 yuan. Work very tired but very happy, "finally do not have to face her (mother) was."
home more than one month, Jimmy Wang Yu just arrived in Wenzhou, in time, to my grandfather used to have a message, "My new number of Wenzhou." He said that for the time being and the mother did not want contact, "call does not know what to say."
When asked why the drop out of school and left home, Jimmy Wang Yu cried and said he wanted to read,
but do not want to go home. "I just can not stand her and I get more than others." Said Wang Yu, his mother like irony, as long as one can see that he took out his cell phone, reproved opened, "again playing mobile phone, you see certain students to do work early Well, a lot of sub-test than you. "Wang Yu said he is used to late homework, and have not been playing phone delays.
mother's nagging and the irony, just started a two, he reluctantly Renxia the. Over time, he felt out of breath. In protest, ranging from mother to finish, he washed his mother shouted curse, mother and son against each other, even once the development of the hands. "Daily noisy downtown every day, I am very tired in class are used to doze off."
"She and I simply can not communicate." Jimmy Wang Yu said he has tried to repair relations between mother and child, try After the 90 non-mainstream tell his mother to listen, but get "those kids like crazy, incomprehensible," the evaluation, so he gave up.
as a reporter to Jimmy Wang Yu's mind he conveyed to the Wanfang, she still some do not understand the idea of children, only said that if the son is willing to correct our shortcomings, whether to continue studying or working, she is willing to accept re- him. In response, Jimmy Wang Yu was some hesitation, "over time Look, if she is willing to take the initiative to contact me, I do not refuse."
counselors adolescent stage of the child, parents should play a "fireman" < / p>
response to these cases, senior counselors had commented on Horse Dreamer. She said Jimmy Wang Yu adolescent, his mother may be in menopause, in these two stages are relatively sensitive to the psychology of thinking tend to extremes. Especially if the mother's educational level, education, way too single, use the "language of violence" used to it, the process of mother and son get along more easily in the "needle-to-head" conflict.
for children in adolescence, parents should adopt a moderate approach to, not to use the language of violence to escalate the situation. The article reflects the mother of his young stiff attitude, which he had in fact intensified the psychological sensitivity, leading to extreme behavior.
Horse Dreamer month suggested that people are very sensitive in puberty, this sensitivity for every corner of society, parents should be this extreme period in the child's play "fireman", through the care they give them sense of stability, rather than words to intensify violent conflicts, flames lit the matches become. She suggested that parents can buy some more books introduce the characteristics of adolescence, understand children's mental state, more care and attention given to children to help him resolve the conflict with society.
West China City Daily reporter Liu Meiling Wu Cuifeng's practice Qin Luo (Department of text characters alias)
