China Daily

China Daily News: English, "China Daily" reported on January 20: Press and several have their own set of personal property, Mr. Shen when talking about his emotional experience always dwarfed. Last year, he liked a girl, ask her to spend a million a meal, and later the Office of flowers every morning to the girl. The thought that such behavior is, of romance, action can be great, Mr. Shen was scared of his sweetheart. Because the company's various arguments, the girl had to resign.

"Although I was put players in the business world, but in my mind from the pursuit of love is mostly secondary to the fairy tales and movies," Mr. Shen said.

for 25 to 40-year-old man, to find a suitable object has become a pressing matter. The parents of anxiety for the children of the marriage is also growing. Experts explained that many people do not know how to date, how to get along with the opposite sex, let alone get married.

now, after 80 generation has gradually entered the age of marriage for some people, learning and working environment over the years makes them very lack of experience with the opposite sex, resulting in many Otaku and the house girl.

According to the National Population and Family Planning Commission of the data, by 2020, expanding the sex ratio will produce 30 million bachelor.

Marriage Institute Lily Wang Zhiguo, chief expert pointed out that most people lack the love of education, because no one ever taught them how to "love", how to make a do not know how to love him (her ) of the opposite sex.

according to China Association of Marriage and Family Research Institute and Lily Love to data released by the Joint National existing 180 million single men and women looking for their other half. The "2010 Report of the National Marriage" survey of 32,676 people, more than 19% of respondents believe that they do not know how to work with the opposite sex, need guidance and support various forms of marriage.

Mr. Shen was met, "the sister" of the Wu Jiamin insiders called Tango. Tango taught him how to break the ice, how to strike up a conversation with a strange girl, and slowly he began to get rid of the previous natural thinking.

"the sister of people" who pose a new, frequented nightclubs, commercial street where beautiful women come and go. How to break the ice is very important, "Beauty, I found a very nice ring with you, if you miss the opportunity to know you, I will regret it", this is their preferred method of opening.

lack of love, most people in China's education and skills, "the sister" to the man who provided more opportunities, so that they have access to your favorite object. Tango professionals that China truly be called the sister who not more than 10 people, but he believes more people will participate.

Tango classes offered each month consultation time fee ranging from 2,500 yuan to 4,500 yuan, students learn in different ways mainly to pursue girls. Bubble is the main platform for learning network, currently has more than 20 million registered members. There are many registered members on the site's main purpose is to exchange the formation of a long relationship.

experts have warned that anyone who objects dating and get along with the principle of good faith must be, otherwise it will not be long term.

known as the "devil consultant" Chi Nguyen was published last July, "the devil approached learning", the weekend house he was highly educated men and provide guidance to 2,800 yuan for each regular class.

"I think men should have the courage to show themselves in front of the women, but women have a crush on you, whether to continue the dialogue both sides, it is women have the final say," Ruan Qi told the "China Daily "reporter. Starting in 2008, Ruan Qipei training about 500 "Otaku", it is estimated half of the trainees have found the object.

Ruan Qi, sold close to 10,000 books, publishers will be reprinted. Nguyen Chi like him "love consultant" will be gradually increased, and love advice services will have a very broad market.

not just the men in the process of looking for love suffering, women are increasingly seeking outside help, to participate "to find her husband" and the blind date training.

TEDA times in Beijing CBD center, Ms. Wang will be every Tuesday night and another 15 single women to join "to find her husband," Zhao permanent training consultant.

"Why do so many pro-phase, I was a person, not found the right man? I have always difficult to find a sense of their own." Ms. Wang came up to ask questions. "This is my question Why?"

now 28-year-old Ms. Wang is a standard white-collar workers, only last month, she just had a love affair, and this love only lasted 5 months.

trainer Zhao created a permanent counseling of women seeking a book - "find a good husband." In the past two years, he worked three or four hundred women love counseling. He told the students, to find her husband take time, but this time is to have limits.

"for two years or five years, regardless of what they like, but there is a limit of time. Because real life is not one hundred percent perfect."

the same time, a single person should not be set too high a standard, the standard will suddenly strange reduce their risk of experiencing a good man. "Some women have to find a man than he was five, while others have to ask her boyfriend stabbed the constellation of the same tattoo."

"Some women see a very flawless boyfriend easy to give up, so go to Beijing to 39% of married couples will choose two or three years of divorce. many couples do not want to deal with life as encountered small contradictions, but to resort to divorce, try to get rid of this feeling. "

Ministry of Civil Affairs data shows that three quarters of 2010, 779 million couples registered their marriages to the civil affairs departments. More than 1.3 million pairs of divorce (including 660,000 pairs of divorce court.)

Marriage Institute Lily Wang Zhiguo, chief expert, said the rise of single person on the development of marriage counseling marriage relationship is beneficial, but China also needs more professional marriage family counselors, to deal with the relationship the couple to provide recommendations.

in the U.S., there are 20 per 10,000 residents in a professional marriage and family counselor. And with 370 million pairs of Chinese couples are only 831 career consultant, is also applied, but two or three thousand.

experts say, traditional values and time constraints are the biggest obstacle to a young white-collar spouse. "2010 Report of the National Marriage" data showed that 60% of the respondents think that their social circle is too narrow, limited to friends, colleagues and relatives. 42% said they were not looking for active objects.

"I usually work very busy, and I already introverted, shy, in addition to working outside the circle do not know how to make men" engaged in nursing work in Beijing, Liu said. "I do not want their own initiative, if I take the initiative, and that after the men would not put me seriously."

such concerns to the way so many ladies wild courses. Training costs sky-high price of 57,000 yuan behind, the road in the wild within 70 days of commitment to enable trainees to find suitable objects.

Road, the main field of the militarization of the training is to teach women how to understand men in a short time, he often spies own training and training in comparison.

"playing an extreme example, a good spy can another person within 15 minutes of insight into the key information, and many women are not getting along with three or four years in the understanding of man's important information. "

After seven days of training, the Way of wild requires each student to complete a" real field ", they must find the hot spots can get along with 9 potential targets.

Road Wild, said the majority of students are concerned, marriage is the ultimate goal.

"or even one of my students that he is a millionaire, she asked to marry a man more money than their own. Of course, all of these students are not willing to have their husbands to know that on such a course. "

However, when the reference to" the girl "training, the way that men do not need field of early learning skills in this area, more time should be spent on his career.

"If men really want to learn, the best career in the 30-year-old was later to learn. But women are different, they need to consider her husband's problems as soon as possible." (China News reporters Hu Yongqi and Duan Yanliu policy editor PEI training)